How To Make Your Husband Love Your Vibrator

Sex toys can be a tricky subject for a lot of couples so I am often met with disbelief when I say my husband loves my vibrator. We have been together a long time and after 2 kids, jobs, a house, and all of the grown-up pressures that come with it all, our sex life was suffering. Introducing sex toys was the best thing we ever did, and now we both love our goody drawer. Here’s what you need to do to get your husband to love your vibrator too.

Step 1: Make Him Understand That the Orgasm Odds Are Not In Your Favor

The statistics are 75%. Think about that. 75% of women can’t orgasms through intercourse alone. We also need about 20 minutes to reach climax, whereas our male partners need about 5. Those are pretty depressing odds and I don’t think that a lot of us are aware of them. Bring it up with your partner. It doesn’t have to be a deep discussion. “You won’t believe what I just read” is how I went about it. Plant the seed in his brain. Our bodies are wired very differently. For many women a vibrator brings orgasms significantly quicker and with greater regularity. Why wouldn’t he want to take advantage of that?

Step 2: Remember, He WANTS You to Have Orgasms!

If you’re still unsure about bringing up a vibrator, remember that guys want us to have orgasms. It makes them feel great to see us enjoying ourselves. Using a vibrator doesn’t mean they are cut out of the action, either. There are lots of vibrators that make great nipple stimulators and which can fit snugly on your clitoris while you enjoy penetration. Then he can feel it too! We use The We-Vibe Tango and it’s great for this because it’s small but super powerful. Most men just don’t know what’s out there on the market and once they see that a vibrator can be an enhancement instead of a replacement, it’s easy to get them on board.

We-Vibe Tango

Step 3: Show Him That Vibrators Are Great for Foreplay Too!

This goes along with the idea that a vibrator isn’t a replacement for him. A wand vibrator like the Magic Wand Rechargeable or the Doxy Wand are absolutely fantastic for relaxing stiff, tense muscles. My husband doesn’t even have to go near my erogenous zones to turn me into a puddle of goo. For so many women, even getting in the mood is a huge challenge, so this kind of vibrator is almost like a fast track to complete relaxation. It helps you turn your brain off and just enjoy sensation.

Doxy Wand Vibrator

Step 4: Teach Him That Vibrators Can Bring Back the Art of the Quickie!

While I’m all for spending hours exploring and having a good time, sometimes there’s just not enough time in the day. It’s easy to forego intimacy when you know it’s going to take away precious sleep time. Like I said earlier, many women climax significantly quicker with direct clitoral stimulation by a vibrator. Reach into that bedside drawer, pull out your favorite vibe, hand it over, and see his eyes light up. It really can help you get back some of that dirty quickie action you had before grown up life intruded.

The Art of the Quickie!

Be patient, follow these steps and before you know it, you’ll have HIM buying YOU vibrators. If you want some more suggestions on great clitoral vibes, you can check out our article 3 of the Best Clit Vibrators